one day at a time

last weekend was great! (translation: it was "quiet" and fun-filled, punctuated with jokes, and complete, total verbal communication!).

we shared meals together with no incident (i.e. breakfast, lunch and dinner not cut short by "distracting" cellphone calls from his mom or his friends from out of town, or even work!) one time we were having a lively conversation over dinner and he heard from a friend who flew in from out of town and he proceeded to hold a prolonged conversation while i sat eating!

we planned our day and actually pushed through with our schedule---well, most of it anyways! i just didn't want the weekend to end!

having him "with me" this past weekend was so special, considering we have had our usual one week without talking on the phone, emails, sms, or even face-to-face contact, much less speaking to each other kinda days! one time we went for an entire month without seeing each other, he didn't realize it had been that long!

i have learned that i should just take the cue from him. as every day, every moment can change so fast! he can be funny one moment, and then he makes an inappropriate comment that will hurt me (or rub me the wrong way), and i just walk away!

after reviving f2add online, i resolved to take it "one day at a time." we've tried so many ways to deal with ADHD and our relationship.

we have had a neurologist (whom he hasn't seen since we got married!), an ADD coach (whom he stopped seeing because he didn't like that he felt degraded---mind you, it was the only time that we actually made progress!), was evaluated for the DORE program (contact me if you'd like more info, i actually met with winford dore himself!), signed up with a local CHADD chapter, and met with several therapists---count them six (6)! translation: social workers who had no idea what CHADD was, much less ever worked with adults with ADD!

at one point we were going to the neurologist, ADD coach and the marriage therapist/ social worker ALL at the same time! he decided to stay with the social worker, who on the first session (which i attended, followed by two more!) said, "i'm sorry, i don't think i can help you."

he's still with the same marriage therapist/ social worker, and sees him at least once a week. it's been almost two years since that first session!